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Optimizing your Choices Instead of Reaching for Perfection

Sometimes in looking for perfection, I might make the mistake of looking to hard at only one part of a bigger picture. I might be only looking at one little section of what could be or is a masterpiece of a great panorama. I don’t include other parts of what is or could be in the picture.

Perfection might have the feel of having immediacy for some people. They think they should find perfection right away. This might be the case but it might not. Picture the baseball player walking into the batting cage. It would be expected that they would need some warm-up swings. If they complained to the fellow players about not hitting a home run in their first swing they would often say you just need to warm up. It’s obvious within the sport that this warm-up is needed in many or most cases. But in other situations we expect perfection right away and it isn’t as obvious that we aren’t being realistic about the similar need to warm up.

There might still be an area of near perfection that we can find. This might be similar to an area of excitement. For example, just seeing certain person of the opposite sex brings someone into an area of excitement, this could also be symbolic of an area of near perfection to this individual. Even though overall their relationships with the opposite sex have been lacking, there still remains an area of excitement for them, or an area of near perfection that they can even see. If we do see that area of excitement, we can be hopeful about that and this is an area we could potentially prize as near perfect if we can get to it.

I can look for links within these possible areas of perfection. I find just looking at this particular woman an area of excitement. Then I talk to her, and find her exciting to talk to. There is a link right there.

Links can be links to the contrary position, which oppose perfection. I have been working in the software industry and things have gone sour for me and I am no longer interested in the field. I was never interested in the steel industry so I can link my current disinterest in the software industry with my disinterest in the steel industry which I have never even considered working in and then I can find it easier to put the software industry out to pasture as I link my areas of disinterest together.

What some people see as their flaws and imperfections, are actually characteristics that they would want back if they were taken away and they might even cherish these traits in the final review.

I was getting a haircut and the person cutting the hair, Rocky, was talking about the stock market and how some of the people that play the market are obsessed with checking the changes in the market and individual stocks during the days. Rocky said the he cuts the hair, checks it once and he is finished contrasting to those who are constantly checking their stocks. I told him of an article in the Wall Street Journal about a podiatrist who spend so much of his working day checking on his stocks during the dot.com boom he only half of his normal visitors for his practice that year because he got so distracted by his stock prices. This relates to the idea of perfection. Even if we get it, when can we let go on it and just check it over and reach a conclusion on our efforts. Can I just paint a perfect picture and leave it at that? Or do I keep on painting the Mona Lisa forever? That leaning tower of Piazza that is still leaning.

Things will tend to tilt towards perfection or imperfection. It might be more useful to look at perfection as a tendency rather than something that can actualize or be an actuality in many or most cases. There will be tendencies or movements away or towards perfection. You can actualize certain things but don’t idealize to far and to long on what is not actualizing to the extent that you lose chances to center on other good things.

Make believe that the sun is perfection and the earth moves towards or way from the perfect sun.

In actuality however, for the people on the earth distance of the earth from the sun might be close to perfect in terms of climate. If it were a few million miles closer, it might be much to hot for the earth’s inhabitants. Ironically, the earth might be in the best position or perfect position in relation to the sun as it is now. If the earth was a few million miles closer to the sun, the ocean would be boiling and the surfing conditions wouldn’t be any good.

One of the things to consider in relation to perfection is the idea of defining what you are doing. If you are fishing with the seals near the North Pole, why worry about being the perfect leader of a corporation. If I am playing baseball, why I am concerning myself with the idea of being the perfect goaltender in the NHL? Define what you are doing.

The girl says, I’m going to get in tiptop shape for the summer and I’ll wear a bikini at the beach. She gets into tiptop shape, goes to a desolate beach and there is no one to see her. Implicit in her motivations for getting in tip top shape or close to perfect shape was that she would go to the beach and have an audience. She didn’t position herself correctly in relation to her prior motivations.

We see that while we seek perfection we must also position ourselves in relation to these motivations. This girl got into close to perfect shape but no one was there at the beach to observe her and she wanted an audience for her hard earned efforts towards getting in the best shape possible.

Then how do we position the factors? Look at all the factors you might have. You select a factor and work it to near perfection. Another factor you could have put in place or positioned yourself with was ignored. You might have pressed the wrong buttons or you needed to push the right factors and right buttons. You might have gotten perfection with the factor you choose but you didn’t pick the best factor.

For example, say your primary motivation is to make money in this situation. You work close to perfectly for this company for a year. After this year is up, you say you made 100 thousand dollars. But actually, if you push another button, such as being an actor or professional baseball player, both of which you were very capable of doing, the salary for either would have been 1 million dollars. So you actually paid 900,000 dollars for your choice. The one million you should have made minus the 100,000 you did make.

Another issue is that I have mixed motives, I have some more perfect motives and some that I consider selfish. To decipher your motivations you can look at the positions you ultimately want. I look inward and I find that my motivations towards women are from a playboy mentality. I hesitate in this area because I realize I have mixed motivations. But then I find myself on a trip abroad to a scenic location and realize I wished I had positioned this trip to where I had a traveling companion who was female to keep me company and share the enjoyment of the good scenery with. Within my possible positioning that might be had, I can see that there are other motivations at play that deal with wanted perfection. To have the perfect trip, I really do feel I need the companionship of women. Despite my mixed motivations that I have about women because I tend to objectify into being a playboy, from this position I realize that I can decipher other motivations that are at work or could become operative as well.

Another example is I want to write the perfect novel. I think this is the perfect situation. I also want this to be a best seller for the purposes of making me rich. I call this an imperfect motivation. Do I let this imperfect motivation cancel all my efforts or at least let it cast a shadow on what I want to do. I look at these motivations, some are more perfect and some are less perfect.

But separate from this, where do I want to position myself. Like the girl who got in tip top shape for mixed motives, one of which was to show off at the beach, I still need to consider where I want to position myself. She went to the desolate beach and never properly positioned herself for the audience she hoped for. If she had positioned herself for the crowded beach, she could have reviewed her original motivations of having an audience then in relation to the actual hoped for position and then she could have gotten a more valid view of how mixed her motivations were and whether some of them in fact had links to wanted perfections. I see my motives are mixed, but I still want to position myself as well as possible despite the uncertainties of having mixed motivations that aren’t fully separated out. I may want the situation to meet with several motivations. As I consider how to best position myself, should I let what I feel is imperfect cancel out all perfection, or in fact everything else. I have a better chance of catching the perfect wave if I’m actually at the beach and being in position by the water waiting with my surfboard rather than at home on the couch. So often I have to position myself close to the situation I want to break into anything that might be near perfection. Patience is important but I might be waiting so long that I’ll fall asleep on the watch and perfection will sail right by. I need to position myself for the gold, if that’s what I want.

Then say for example you are trying to work a situation perfectly and it is sliding in the other direction. You are paying a price that is only getting higher. Your continuing efforts are being cancelled out. If your goal is perfection, it might only get worse and you will be in fact further from perfection and pay a heavier price as time goes on. Forge ahead in something you are not enjoying and you will probably just get more of the same. It might be better to first and foremost find the bail out position as the price you pay to do that will be worth it.

Another case might be that you are in a good situation, you are working it close to perfectly, but other things and other pursuits that you value are sliding in the other direction. Your pursuit of perfection in this one area even though it is going very well seems to have the cost of not properly attending to other interests, which are also important to you right now. You could set your lights with a wider beam. You had chosen to focus a certain way, but realize the way you are focusing is at least in part a product of your choosing. You could also dim your lights if need be to avoid the all or nothing mentality. You don’t have to turn off completely if you don’t find perfection.

Perfection also relates to likes and dislikes. When we refer to likes and dislikes, we can go over some of the particulars. I like the design of the boat, I like the speed of the boat, I like the viewing panel of the boat. We can refer to the particulars especially if we can’t seem to get a handle of the global scene of what we are dealing with. Those splendid corals of the sea have a particular fancy for me.

The particulars could also be negative in terms of my likes. How is this going to be a perfect job when I don’t even like a file, this file or any file that I’m dealing with?

In fact, I might be lucky if I can bring any positive frame to a given situation. The situation or circumstance has negative elements, connotations, or even outright chaos. The question is how can there be a positive frame to this, never mind even thinking of a perfect frame.

You could win, win, win, and win. But if you don’t mind what season you are in, you might not capture the new era. And you lose out that way. A company can finally capture that market that has now faded in nostalgia.

Perfection identifies or helps identify a path I wish to take. The concept of perfection works as an identifier. It can be associated with exactness. If I get perfection, I am getting exactly what I want. However, if perfection means exactness to me, I put additional pressure on myself to find exactness in situations and circumstances. The exactness I want or expect might not appear and then I am lost. That search for exactness leaves me feeling lost, like I am looking for a needle in a haystack.

Who’s driving, you or perfection? Perfection might be outright driving for you or in might be a backseat driver telling you what to do. In the meantime you are trying to drive through outright chaos and perfectionist idealisms are yapping away at you. Then you feel you can’t stop for something the is tainted or even touched with imperfection but might serve your purpose in some agreeable way.

The search for perfection can end up being fueled by desperation. I am looking for a woman with a perfect head of hair, and everyone I am meeting has at least one strand out of place. If I lowered my expectations to someone with a very good hairstyle and maybe a strand or two out of place, I might feel less desperate about my search.

Another pitfall to a blanketing search for perfection is not having a watchful eye towards what is important, what is more important and what is most important. For example, you read a long article in the newspaper or an informative article or book on a given subject. At times, you might want to extract what is most important and then worry about a perfect read as a secondary factor. The same is true in a given situation, you are in a work situation and the more important thing might not be the job in front of you at this very second but the person in front of you who could form into a great long term contact on several levels. What I what to extract from the surrounding circumstances of the moment is also quite important.

By focusing on overall perfection, you might be doing it at the expense of the hierarchy of what is going to be more important for you. You could compromise the ability to extract what’s most important for the given scenario by totally focusing on wanted perfection.

What we want to do is maybe look for the mark of perfection but no matter what don’t put that mark on ourselves. Try to paint the car a perfect red and leave the mark of perfection on the object of the car but don’t mark yourself as the perfect painter of cars, in other worlds, don’t personify perfection in relation to a task that you would prefer to do rather perfectly. A mark now boomeranging with ourselves becomes a burden that is like that pair of clothes we can’t change or a hat we have to keep wearing. Be a task master but don’t personify it to you. So whatever you are trying to do perfectly don’t mark yourself as someone who is perfect in doing this. You can travel lighter and switch modes easier if you don’t have to live up to some perfectionist standard that you have marked yourself as having and while you can try to do this perfectly, never say you are the perfect doer of this.

Why does perfection always seem to play the part of the heavy? Maybe perfection is found also in the lighter approach or on the lighter side of things if we are going to equivocate on perfection.

One of the ways of checking of what might have been perfect is looking back with the retrospective view. I have the benefit of looking back and referring to my memory. What was most memorable for me in the past and what relationship do these memories have with the idea of perfection? Maybe what was most memorable for you was a moment. Or it might involve a trip with great scenery and in the meantime you did your job almost perfectly all year and it for some reason doesn’t seem that memorable for you. It may be that something I felt I did close to perfectly was most memorable but it my also be that something else that didn’t involve the pursuit of perfection was most memorable.

Within the pursuit of perfection, I can also see if I am being reasonable. The idea of perfection may or may be reasonable. If I am not the perfect person, then why am I looking for perfect people? I could ask, is this wanted perfection reasonable to even my interests? I take my interests, put them on a platform and see them as viable interests whether they involve actual perfection or not. I am first deriving from interests rather than anything else and if interests take me to the idea of perfection, I still don’t want an or any idea about my interests to ultimately usurp my interests or take over for my interests as these interests is what I am deriving off of in the first place. The perfection I strive towards might not be that enduring even if I can get close to it. It might not be sustainable in any case. It might appear briefly only to leave again. I can adjust my view of myself to see what actually gets me going. I might view myself as a very good and almost perfect golfer or a very good and not so perfect golfer but which view is actually going to get me on the golf course in the first place? Sometimes viewing yourself as an imperfect golfer might seem a bit lighter to the situation and you might be more likely to play the game than if you view yourself as someone who should be putting up professional numbers but your not even close to that so you don’t bother at all with the game. Try to obtain a more reasonable view of the situation. Often the more reasonable view gets you to more obtainable approaches and outlooks. I am looking to be in any way reasonable if I try to pitch a perfect game against the Yankees or any team in the major leagues when there have been less than 20 games in the history of major league baseball that have been pitched perfectly. Be reasonable to what is involved in the given situation, don’t say I want to enjoy a swim but I don’t want to get wet while doing it.

Then perfection might seem to require an absolute focus. This hard focus may not always run in tandem with some other ideas that might be helpful. A soft focus might be better.

If I am having trouble in my pursuits, I might want to introduce variety into the situation. I could say no matter what I will induce variety in my schedule as in the long run I will need this. If things aren’t going well, the tendency might be to compromise variety and double up on specific efforts that I know I can concentrate on, but that concentration doesn’t always save the day. But what happens is I might forego some things that get pushed out of the picture until I obtain wanted perfection. I will not play golf until I get that good job. I might find that good job years later, I haven’t played golf in years where if I had stuck with the variety idea under all circumstances, I could justify going golfing occasionally as something different and a valid variation from my routine and my singular walk towards perfection in a given area.

Another difficulty I might encounter is that if I make a mistake, a significant blunder in my pursuits, if I had been expecting perfection I might just stop right there. If I think I’m a perfect golfer and I double bogey the first hole, I might give up right there and walk off the course. I might be so bothered by the mistake that I focus on the mistake at the expense of continuing. The mistake is so counter to perfection, that I get discouraged and stop right there. The challenge might then be to keep perfection as an idea or ideal, but if I am finding real obstacles, I need to adjust my thinking so I can find a way to keep going despite my failures or shortfalls around me or that I encounter within myself or if I do find I am able to readjust my thinking for whatever good reasons. My own hesitations for whatever reasons are obstacles in and of themselves. I may keep hesitating and just chance the reason for the hesitation or I get so used to the hesitation process that I just don’t know any other way. Here, I don’t want to introduce ideas of perfection to get me out of hesitating. More than likely, I need to loosen the reigns, allow for some mistakes as long as they aren’t to costly and accept my own inabilities to go forward as a problem where I may need to help myself with gradual changes in my approaches and outlooks rather than leaps forward into the perfect. I can adjust to the mistakes and involve that adjustment into an approach that let’s me go on and forward if I still want to do that. Even if I feel the need to stop and beat myself up for what went wrong, can I recover from the beating enough to where I can go into an adjustment that lets me not make this or that a permanent stop. Self chastisment does happen but you don’t have to make that a never ending process as well as you even try to do that perfectly or keep at it until you get better at that as well.

Sometimes people in the pursuit of perfection either want it all or the gold or they say they will or might as well finish last. An example of that was in the Olympic ski jumps which involved flips this past winter Olympics. The American skier was winning after the first round but a competitor did some never done before twists in the competition. He had one of the 3 or 4 highest scores ever in the second round. The American went last and tried for an equivalent jump in terms of difficulty. He said he would either go for the gold or finish last and he ended up finishing last. He could have had the mindset of just trying for the Bronze and Silver and just tried to land a very good jump but his choice was at the far ends of the presenting spectrum.

What happens is that sometimes we tend to look for perfection and if we don’t find it we place ourselves in last place or place outselves out of contention. But even with the imperfection, we are often unrealistic in placing ourselves last. Just because we aren’t first, doesn’t mean we are last. If I don’t win the gold, it doesn’t mean I’m still not very good.

I’m prejudiced toward vanilla ice cream. That doesn’t make it the perfect ice cream. Your prejudices don’t necessarily equate to perfection.

Perfection could represent a range. A perfect weight for you could be 180 pounds or a perfect weight could range from 175 to 185 pounds. A weight in that range will tip the scales for you into perfection. If you go into that range you have converged into perfection, if your weight goes outside of that range you have diverged from perfection. What you want is a more malleable concept or idea of perfection if we are going to work with perfection at all, meaning that you can range into certain areas, and it is a range that you are looking for.

Optimal is the best or best I can do, which may not be perfect. Optimal and perfection might be interchangeable, but not necessarily or totally. Optimal tends to be situational. In any situation there can be the optimal, while in some situations I can’t get perfection no matter what.

In many situations, there is nothing beyond optimal. For example, I am on a sailing expedition along the coast. Suddenly something happens that sinks the boat, I give a quick distress signal, before I’m overboard. The optimal thing I can do is either wait for a hoped for rescue or swim to the shore. I am not going to get a perfect afternoon sailing now. Imperfection has been introduced into the situation. The best I can do is safely get to the shore now. There is nothing left anymore for me in this situation beyond the optimal. I seek to adjust to perfection only if I can actually do so. Perfection might not be present. I can have the optimal outlook for a situation. If I’m dating, I could look for the optimal person rather than the perfect person. After all, I’m not perfect myself. By saying optimal, I am giving myself different symbolism. Being an optimist gives me more options. Being optimistic ironically could involve lowering my sights to include more of the possibilities. What I am aiming for can be adjusted to less than or some other potentially accurate guess on what could be closer to perfect.

I can expand my roster of opportunities. If I can handle imperfection, I might have more opportunities to look at and consider and options to consider if I can allow for possibly choosing into the less than perfect. Every single pointer might not be within the concept of perfection. You might be pointing towards doing something that is less than perfect. I can still proceed regardless of what the pointers are saying. I can try for the necessary adjustments to the changes, which are often in front of me before I brush them aside sometimes making believe that they were never there in the first place. I might find myself on a somewhat different trend line. Can I bring perfection into sight rather than maintaining my shy away positions? I think by expecting the perfect, I’ll find it but expectations can’t always see into or sail into perfection’s waters either.

You want to enjoy where you are now, even if it’s less than perfect. Your in this stretch of coast, you might as well enjoy it as this is the boat I’m in, this is the coastline I’m on and I will start to enjoy some of it. You want to use what you have which might not reach towards perfections mandates. I can’t always have everything or the perfection I wanted or in the way I wanted it. Perfection can be a controlling concept. I want the control of perfection in this situation. If its perfect, I think it means it presents some sort of handle. But what does getting a handle on things have to do with perfection in many cases?

Imperfection can exist side by side with perfection thereby giving you more options. I might be filtering my course through a belief system that demands something like perfection therefore I might not believe and see some real options or opportunities that might bring me some happiness yet don’t outright contradict my belief system however pollinated it is with perfections.

I had been controlling for perfection only. I can make some of my beliefs accessible to imperfection and free up some of my thinking. I can have freeing beliefs that don’t enslave me to perfection and maybe even keep my perfectionist beliefs but also give credence to beliefs that don’t quite meet with perfection as I understand it to be. This gives me more of a chance to work with partial views because ironically even if the situation is perfect I might not always see it that way. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing, either a perfect view or no view. I don’t have to be held to one section of coast that I perceive as perfect. I can rearrange my ideals and beliefs to encompass more than just the perfection I seek. I don’t have to be bound to perfection only in my overall set of beliefs and the boundaries I have formed around the beliefs. Otherwise, perfection could have the effect of isolating me from some of my real interests that I can’t quite quality as perfect but indeed they do qualify as real.

I can section off my attempts at perfection. I will keep this section of the beach for perfection but I will also allow myself to go to other sections of the beach where I can be imperfect. I can get A in school but only B’s in my personal readings as I don’t need to follow strict standards in everything I’m doing.

I can give myself partial credit as well. My goal is a 10 mile hike and I only hike 8 miles, falling short of my goal and now I’m imperfect in meeting my goals. I can still give myself partial credit for the 8 miles I did walk. And then I could even change my original goal in freedom to 8 miles and then I have full credit for the 8 miles or say I walked 8 miles into my goal and therefore I did venture into even though I didn’t fully venture into my goals rather than the usual veering away from goals.

There are some scenarios where I just want to get out of the situation. The key is just to get away. I do need to escape from this situation outright. There and then I might disagree with something at it foundations. Or I could never agree to this in principle. Then why set myself up to pursue this perfectly, to go all out, when I don’t even agree to this to start with? Maybe as I search, my starting points could be what could ever be agreeable to me. I could be the arguer of the perfect case for the wrong side as a lawyer. Which side is perfection on anyway? But the ability to argue swiftly is also a positive trait if I am arguing. So what is a positive trait depending on the if of what I am doing?

But then we argue with ourselves. Maybe argue with yourself taking the other point of view, seeing all sides even that once long away sighted optimistic side which seems so distant.

The keynote speaker for perfection may not have hit every note so I can’t follow or even get every good lead out there. Our loyalty for perfection is beyond what perfection has done for us as you can asks, what has this pursuit, this tradition, this corporation, this foundation, this educational pursuit ever done for me? When have you gotten that chance to dance with perfection anyway?

Looking at things through the view of the perfectionist is like looking into scope of a small lens, it might be like peering through a keyhole, when there is a whole world wide window to view things through, a panoramic view or a last an other view. And this panoramic view works both ways, how much wider and higher is this window of reality which we are going to let in from the outside or look at from the inside. A friend of mine said, now that he is older the window of girls he will look at is wide and high, then when he was 20 he only would have the shallow view or narrow view of looking for a certain model type. His idea of perfection might have been wrong even then, to his own loss then. The view of perfection as the standard might not be the for what it is the reachable realm, the finding of an actual available viewpoint, and the only existing approaches that will get us started or begin to get us going. I can scan the imperfect field perfectly with my naked eyes, by the way I notice a slight imperfection in your walk. If for example, I am in need of some nourishment such as a meal, what is the available viewpoint? Is the viewpoint that I fast the next two days really available to me? There are only so many truly available viewpoints in the moment. I am wading in shallow seas and I see a tidal wave approaching. What is the available viewpoint? I can stand where I am and get that view, but it realistically is not available as a life affirming viewpoint.

Dismss The Hawks Of Perfection

Ironically, perfection might be a flawed concept for you and me. It might be the last thing standing between you and what you want.

The pursuit of perfection probably results in more cancellations than anything else. It’s a good excuse not to because if perfection isn’t there, then I’m excused for looking into it further or gathering any further evidence.

There is a lack of recognition as to what is perfect. I am seeking perfection but I couldn’t recognize it if its winds did come in my direction because I don’t have the perfect eye for seeing perfection and my creative vision has been cramped by the narrowness of my pursuits.

I might begin to realize that I am putting a premium on perfection, meaning I’m bargaining away other opportunities that don’t meet up with the word perfect. But I might consider whether this is where I want to put my premium and if it best serves my purposes and designs.

I am pondering what should be perfect for me but that might leave some important things relatively out of sight and out of mind because my theory of relativity means I am looking at opportunities relative to perfection’s mandates which by my own choice I am putting first on line.

I could also think of what would be big for me. If I could do this or that, it would be big for me, regardless of whether I could achieve actual perfection. This could be big for me an extend past the line of what I expected. It might not be perfection, but it certainly surpasses previously held expectations. Pondering what is going to be a relatively big deal for me if and when I get there is also a way of identification of what I actually want that doesn’t always mesh in total with perfection.

As to what I hope to identify and define as being perfect is it ever going to be there or is it never going to be there? I want to be a perfect center in the NBA, but since I’m only 6’5 feet tall I’m never going to jump the tap against the Shaq who’s height advantage has already decided that outcome for the most part.

Perfection and its standards might be rising to high against the investigative process. I might be trying to raise my sights by investigating something and at the same time perfection is the leading theme of the investigation, but also I want to look at what lacks perfection but might be useful nonetheless. I want two boats to appear on the seas horizon when I just really need the one and I can reach compromises with perfection to get that one boat moving. Compromise with some of your ideals of perfection if it will help you move.The investigative process does include the imagination that you do want to keep active. You want to have an active and in use imagination and warrants to be perfect seem to at times hide away the imaginary world and its processes that are part of what forms our launch point. Hence the hawks of perfection hindering or circling around what was otherwise a free and open and widely circling launching pad.

If I have a job or situation that I can in fact work perfectly, then that should be a red flag, a red flag saying that there is not enough creativity involved in this pursuit because I can achieve perfection but the creative process is muted a bit and not enough creativity is bubbling up. Too much perfection as defined in performances is an indicator that I’m not taking creative chances.

Perfection might take out the percentages for me. I am 50 percent interested in this. Perfection tells me I should be 100 percent interested or forget about it whereas I can take and work with lesser percentages especially in the face of possible real rewards. I can allow myself and frame for smaller percentages that 100 percent in my decision making and pursuits.

Perfection can result in an all or nothing mentality where we lose sight of both the gradations and elongations. Even if we get perfection for this moment, it’s not going to stretch out to infinity for us. In addition, a truthful look at any situation involves gradations and nuances that involve proper particularization of what we are seeing. The ease of perfection may be just another trap blinding us to the real. It is easy enough to count 1,2,3 perfectly, but realism is the first order of the day, not an escape into easily found perfection and thereby avoiding complexities involved in the typical mess and working through the nuances involved with that..

I am looking for perfection or nothing. I need to work with less than perfect because I need to not take the easy way out by saying where is the perfect road? It is too much easy streets to say I have to have perfection and then I walk away on that basis. I have to have it this way, the perfect way or I will not have it at all. I am at the beach waiting for that perfect wave and I will consider nothing else as far as a wave. By doing this, I am not escaping the chaos either, and I’m better off just going more fully into the chaos, letting those waters rumble as they may and then is the perfect wave does arise, so be it. Let the wanted perfection go, and bring on the chaos, and then I can still maybe get some tints of perfection even as I am dealing with greater or lesser degrees of actual chaos from which there is now way I can reduce away from if I want to proceed.

I’m not far behind. This is a very positive statement and in some cases, it might be the proper view. If my potential as an actor is to be not far behind Ben Affleck, then maybe I should be in the movies. But sometimes when I am just taking in the view of perfection, I might not see that I’m not far behind. That I am not far behind is not a daring statement but just a reality telling me that is this is so, than I can proceed with hope in sight.

The view of being not far behind is quite good and although not perfect, if I am not far behind Tiger Woods on the golf course, then I need to know the meaning and charting involved in that as well. I might be looking for my dream date, but if that doesn’t happen I might find another date that is not far behind. Instead of thinking why am I am not perfect, think about how good it is to be not far behind.

I might be thinking about perfection and I might miss the next best thing. If I can’t get the best things or perfect things, I have the option of the next best thing if I can accept this. If I can’t get exactly what I thought I wanted, what is the next best thing? Then I might not be perfect but I might be better at this or that. I might not be the President or the king but I might be better as schoolteacher, gymnast, runner, swimmer, and reader of books than many of my contemporaries. But maybe I just rate with my contemporaries, I bounce off this side of the wall, they bounce off that side of the wall, but I am operating within similar boundary markers. Everybody is in the chaos, and the range that can be found is only within some manner of chaos, chaos that is even 1 percent there does introduce that there is chaos.

Perfection can trip up the comparisons if I compare myself to perfection I might lose some sight and recognition as to what I still have, going for me that might not reach into the realm of perfection but might be an asset nonetheless that is still very usable. But, maybe you are in a comparable range to perfection is when someone says, ” How are you doing?” And you answer, “compared to what, perfection?” But the search for perfection is going to have the tendency of putting us on a comparison trip because what compares to perfection? And in consideration of new territory, everybody faces new territory that is completely not traveled at starting points and mandates from perfection right at start point zero, doesn’t exactly get one into working territory if I have such a long and arduous road ahead and I also need to know where perfection lies on this road right from the outset. I might want to test capacities. I might even have the capacity to become a positive person and coach myself in that fashion. But I don’t know what my capacities are until I let myself first find and then go through the finding out process so in this case I am not necessarily looking for perfection but just to find out what my capacities are in this or that and at least allow myself to test for and view into my capacities by visiting what is in part experiential. Because I don’t know my actual capacities, I search them out as a partial unknown and the deciphering process in that isn’t that I am looking for perfection, I am just looking for what are the capacities involved here and whether there indeed are capacities that can be breached.

No matter what I can accomplish, in the day, or in a given period, there is a lot that I am going to have to leave undone. Wanting perfection isn’t going to get everything done because it just isn’t possible. I am dealing with limitations as to what can be done at the outset and all the way through.

We might be raising the bar a little bit too high by trying to things perfectly and I can practice dealing with confidence and basically just look at what will raise my confidence rather than what will raise perfection because my personal confidence is more of an intrinsic factor and or need. What I am I trying to raise, it might be confidence, it might be awareness, it might be the ability to experience, but I need not always raise the banner of perfection and it’s standards.

My search for perfection might be like running after the sunset instead of just taking it in as a wondrous moment in time.

Whatever I can capture in the moment is probably not going to ring through the ages for me anyway so I can only hope to be present to the moment first and only then ask humbly what could echo through the ages for me on this.

What would and could form into a proper symphony for me. Not that we want to be passive, but the striving must have a course that we actually begin to walk into with some light at the end of some tunnel. Perfect or not can I go somewhere with this that is more contextual to who and where I am now? I have a right to feel, know and immerse into context and the situational realities, because that is where I am.

The key point is that if we are going to work with the idea of perfection at all, we need to see perfection as not being a stationary concept. Perfection itself might show different faces. The new faces of perfection will appear as things change and suddenly know I do have this in a degree of perfection or in a way that can be describable as perfect. We will still need to make continuing moves if we want to track with currents of perfection, sometimes these currents may clash, and we need to move realizing that we are tracking with more than one thing. To have any workability, perfection cannot be seen as a stationary concept. It might not have been there and suddenly it has arisen, like the rising sun of the early dawn.

While your looking for perfection, you might miss your connections which are critical to just getting into wanted scenes. Therefore, especially if you are feeling confused and maybe even dismayed, try and first figure your way through this in highlighting the connections you do want to meet rather then perfections you do want to achieve. You can reconsider and worry about that later but first get on the train you do want to catch.

A key concept with this is also that the coordinates of perfection will move or change within the currents of perfection. The standing stations of perfection will change and then stand somewhere else. As we patrol the waters of perfection, we need to look at around at the movements of the sea.

The face of perfection might be changing and perfection or no perfection change is the order of the day and try first to ger right with the changes..

What does perfection mean to people and how do they use the concept? Perfectionism for some can result in absolutism. For them for things to be perfect it absolutely has to be this way. The focus must be absolute and absolutely I must obtain this goal when it could be decidedly dropped or toned down to lighter expectations. Perfection for some is making plans and following those plans to the tee. The blueprint, the outline, the plans, should not be compromised if perfection can be found. The basic problem with this is that who is too say that the plan was right in the first place or that other plans once carried out may carry equal or real viability or have wanted results. Or even more outrageous is expecting that the variables that are to be faced could be fully foreseen or contemplated and controlled for at the outset. Even if I can foresee fully and I can contemplate fully, that doesn’t suddenly leave me fully able to do wanted things with this foresight and great contemplations. I may have an advantage I otherwise did not have, but only an advantage and advantages don’t always play to the thunder either. I need to adjust my outline, adjust my plans, adjust my ideas as I travel further down the coastline.

For some perfection involves what is known. I want that established equilibrium, I want the known perfection. But wanting this isn’t going to get me this. What I don’t know dwarfs anything I can possibly know. How much of the future can I know from this moment? But if I am seeking perfection and correlate that with having to know, it might cost me the chance to seek the unknown and yet see it as exciting, as an adventure and possible holding some good or positive surprises. How can you derive excitement from the unknown and first want that visible perfection? I don’t have to see that unknown that way, but I could try to think of the unknown as something that might be good, and maybe this way of approaching things would be advantageous at times. Then perfection might relate against the turnaround, against getting it back, getting on another track. Since I looked for perfection, I lost my way and I might as well give up. How about the turnaround? I already lost perfection, she sailed away, so I totally give up and I don’t make the turn for anything new. However, some turnaround was still possible. If I only looked on more time, but I turned my back to the coast one last time.

Then I am looking inward, or am I looking outward, where I am looking? Seeking perfection can result in an aggravated sense of self-focus and it can result it too much of an outward focus at times. I need to balance the outer and inner focus and neither neglect the outer or inner as I chart my course while blending both, but my definition of perfection has me off balance there. For example, I should be socializing more and with people more. But I am waiting for the perfect time so I can present a perfect front and image or when I most feel like it not realizing that feeling arise and surface as we go into things. I feel the waters as I go into the seas. In the meantime, I am too inward in my focus and I am losing the balance beam of perfection in that way. I wasn’t able to balance myself to the shifting sands along my coastline. Those dunes of perfection were too high for me. Or I did have perfections winds behind my sails and I just don’t or didn’t see it that way. My concepts and definitions of perfection were cloudy, yet perfection did arise from what I had, and I mistakenly did not know I had it, and I ended up looking for something I already had, a mistake made by many.

Then perfection seems to relate to limits. If I’m perfect, if I can find this perfection, then there shouldn’t be any limits there. Can I forget about my limitations then once I am finally perfect? I need to keep them in mind if I am to chart a course that is workable. But really the perfection I am looking for is found within real limits but despite these limits I do have the perfection. I can’t hurl a baseball across the ocean and that is my mistaken definition of perfection. However I can hit the mitt of the catcher every time from the pitchers mound and for that I have the perfect pitch. But some people start to feel the word perfection usurps real limitations when I am never going to find myself without limitations and it is better to know the game I’m in rather than thinking the game is different from false truths that I had arrived to in my thinking and in yet another way, I lose the truth of the perfection I actually did have.

And then limitations that might not be there are imposed by perfections demands. I think the perfect woman would also include being a super model. But then I could consider a woman who isn’t a supermodel, but not if I am looking for my idea of perfection. I am limiting myself to a woman with a given set of circumstances or characteristics. The perfect woman is 30 years old, so I limit myself to woman of this age and I don’t launch from any other platform of thinking.

This also ties up in not seeing what might be real abundance. I am looking for a perfect woman on the crowded beach. There is an abundance of women on the beach, but because of my idea of perfection, I don’t see this abundance or the range of abundance that is really there. Where are the boundary markers and who determines where they are? I am looking for a perfect idea when there is a flock of good ideas out there or an open range of good ideas out there. If things aren’t rolling out perfectly for you it doesn’t mean they aren’t rolling out for you and often quite abundantly and there are more ways to extend what I want if I don’t predefine off what is a more elusive concept of wanted perfection.

Then I think the perfection takes on all the risk. I can skydive perfectly, I could surf the giant waves perfectly, but is this perfection I am finding take away the real risks of what I am doing. The risk remains right within the perfection because even if I am the perfect surfer, the real risk of the titanic wave is not a mirage that perfect surfing masks over.

Or it could be just around the corner. An example could be the apple tree with an abundance of apples, but only one perfect apple. Even if you find that perfect apple, that doesn’t mean that there aren’t lot’s of other apples on that tree and the reach of what that tree has to offer is in reality greater than what my demand for perfection conceptualizes in the moment . The perfection is sought by some as some sort of monuments that is a citation to some things or to have in my sight. But in the end, neither perfection nor imperfection is going to be left standing as regards to you and me and perfection needs to more be seen as something that I can move with, move into, if it is going to reach in the plains of valid and usable and forward seeking.

Then some of us want to show perfection but we might end up with perfections mask. But then what happens if I want to take that mask off, and the truth of my imperfection is revealed. And then I might have made a mistake, I had the wrong interpretation of what perfection was, in fact I was perfect underneath the mask,, but I thought not, so I hid that perfect self with what I thought was a mask of perfection but it was actually a mask of imperfection. The perfection I thought I was presenting with the mask, hid the true gem. I was so worried about perfection, that I actually hid perfection by not keeping this to their original form.

Then I might be looking for perfection and I can’t even tell. For me it’s not even a searchable characteristic. I can’t seem to search the interior. I am on this date, is she perfect, I don’t know? I don’t even have the tools to test for perfection. I am not a weatherman and I don’t have the barometers and I am not a perfection man because I don’t have those barometers, I don’t even know how to test for perfection.

An especially important idea that relates to perfection is pace. I feel like I should pick up the pace. I can’t be sure that a faster pace will bring me to perfection. It might be true but in other cases, I might be better off slowing the pace. There might be instances where I am missing out because I am operating at a faster pace. Other times I might be missing out because I am operating at too slow a pace. I might be moving to a slower clock or I might need to move to a slower clock. The increased velocity is only going to take me so far, I not going to the Moon anytime soon no matter how much I pick up the pace. I might try to capture perfection at a faster pace, but it still might outrun me in elusive fashion. The symphony that will work for me might be found at another pace. With a faster pace, it might be that I am compressing expectations into a smaller time frame or period. I confine my efforts to this time frame and this pace, where the eventual results might be found within a longer time horizon or a different pace. I might find my way on the next series of events. This might not have been my series and maybe things will find their niche in the next series. I’ll find my way next time. If I had followed a fast pace to nowhere, I still want to pace myself for the next series, the next time, and have some left for that. What I can do wrong here is that I make judgments off frames. For example, I am working on a project, I judge it off a week time frame, where I could judge it better off a month time frame. I judge it off a how things are looking straight through the week or month and judge it off how consistent the results might be, where the results might be found in clusters and I need to frame for results off clusters rather than a smooth terrain view.

Or I might have driven myself right past my goals and what I want by following too fast a pace, and losing the eye of the observer. Alternatively, I get up drive for the sake of drive. I drive myself forward in something I don’t want or I am not interested in. I hate golf, but I practice all the time, why bother, then, save that drive for something you like. But I really do like golf, and I frame this to where it is a leisurely pursuit that I will get to after I have reached some other pinnacle. So if I don’t reach that pinnacle, I don’t golf. For example, I will not golf this year until I have earned 100 thousand dollars. This is the frame I’ve established, and if I don’t first make that money, I just don’t golf for the year. If I want to do this, I can do this but realize that the frame up I choose, was my choice and it is a changeable choice. I can say, I’ll go golfing after I make my first 5,000 for the year. I thereby change the frame and pace of my decisions. I can work with perfection on a one-time basis. I’ll give this dream one shot, and then I’ll go back. I’ll try for an adventurous job in a foreign land for one time, or I’ll try to write one novel or one page of a novel if that is to high a goal. Again it is the frame I choose, I can choose a frame of multiple attempts rather than just one. I can try every 6 months for a job in a foreign land rather than say trying just once.

What happens also is we lose the partial sometimes when we look for perfection, if something isn’t perfect doesn’t mean we need to assign a zero to it. It this is something I have that I can’t conceivably value at perfection, I don’t automatically assign no value to it either.

There is the idea of a qualified perfection. I say this qualifies as perfect is this or that happens or is present. But really what is going to qualify as perfection and that can chance at different periods of your life. Maybe going of and hitting the mountains after to many months in the office now for this period indeed does qualify as perfect in the quest for rejuvenation and in finding a lost part of yourself that can be activated again if you do go away.

As far as perfection, even if it is there, I might not be able to get to it. Perfection might have a wider scope than you can reach.

Say for example, the ocean is deemed as perfect. You go to the ocean. It is so vast how much of it can you reach anyway. You go in the water, you can’t see to the bottom or the to the far distance beyond the horizon. You take a cup and fill it with water from the ocean, how much of this ocean have you been able to capture?

In the movie the Beach, Leonardo DeCaprio and friends have a map showing the way to a hidden perfect beach. But issues impose as the movie progresses and ultimately he can’t have this perfect beach.

I could be perfect and see the perfection in front of me in any number of areas, but that doesn’t mean I can get to it. I look up at the perfect star, that doesn’t mean I can get there.

I go to the beach and in the distance, I see some perfect surfers’ waves. But between these waves and the shores are savage currents. I can’t get to the waves without crossing through these savage currents. I can’t get there without an extreme risk. I can go to another part of the beach where the waves are good, but not perfect but these waves are within the reachable realm. But I can get to them and ride them with a fair amount of safety. So what is better, the perfection I see but can’t get to, or the less perfect that I can actually get to?

You get the Sunday Times. You consider every article perfect. But how many articles can you get to without spending the complete day with the paper? To read every article is really out of reach even if you spent the whole day with the paper.

You go to the library. There are lots of books you want to read cover to cover, these books are close to perfect. But you can’t get to every book in the library of Congress, even as a speed-reader. The perfection is right there, but the scope of it is too wide for you to actually reach. The perfection might be in the far away future or the distant past and you can’t reach it because it not there right now. You can’t see the perfect movie in 2110 at this point. But even if it’s right in front of us now, we still might not be able to get to most of it. Say there is a stadium full of close to perfect people at this game. Can you talk with all of them at this time? The perfection is there, but you can’t position yourself for all of it.

Another difficulty with using the concept of perfection is it can disorder our priorities. We consider what we want to put up front. For example, I say I’ll only paint this picture if I can do it just about perfectly. Suddenly, painting is less of a priority, where it might have been the thing to do today if I hadn’t introduced the idea of perfection into the situation.

Should I order my priorities on what I could do more perfectly. For example, I don’t want to date anybody unless they are close to perfect as a date. I want the perfect date with the perfect history, or I expect the person to not have a history, when everyone has a history. Or if she doesn’t have the perfect history she should have a perfect history retroactive to 1999. Anyway, I want some retro perfection in the least. At the same time, I myself am less than perfect using the same retrospective analysis. But I hold off in search of the ideal. But what happens is the whole issue becomes a secondary consideration because I have made perfection or my idea of it primary, while it is possible this is indeed a good idea that is should still be out front, a lead issue, even with the accompanying imperfection which seems to be present and seems like it might remain present. But I have subtly reordered my priorities based on wanted perfection. I brought my desire for perfection onto my scale of what is important and weighed what was important based on perfection, less perfection, or the lesser to the all the way to the lack of perfection. I would have kept my interest and search for perfection as a separated sphere from my ordering of my priorities but this search for perfection issued right into how I ordered my priorities. I can’t accept the degrees of imperfection I might indeed find and have to deal with, and I use this as an excuse to bypass the whole idea.

Sometimes we feel bad that we miss perfection. Maybe we should also feel bad then if we miss something that is less then perfect, but still good.

The pursuit of perfection might involve a rush to judgment that just is not necessary. I can go into the situation without a need for rushing to judgment because why burden myself additionally if I really don’t want to, if I feel like taking my time and I don’t see perfection, why am I so in a rush to find it? There tends to be a gearing up if I don’t at first get what I want. I feel if I can only bring in more perfection that will bring me there. Surely, I will need to adjust pertinent variables, but the hold on the situation will not suddenly jump into perfections arena just because I have plugged in better to real and viable variables.

You say, I didn’t think this would have been perfect. Then you say, I thought it would be good, but I was looking for perfection. I would say, maybe you missed out on something good then. I have put some things under the strain of perfections demands as the presiding weight of perfection is keeping me from moving with agility and breeziness into the future.

You would want your doctor, or someone who worked on the brakes on your car before you went down a mountain road to be a perfectionist. Would you want the engineer that designed your car not to be a perfectionist?

Maybe we wouldn’t know perfection if it was staring us in the face.

Realistically, when we are talking about perfection we are talking about being close to perfect.

Perfection may have a hold on you or you might have things on hold for perfection.

Here is the perfectionist phone call. I call you up, ” Hi, how are you” I have to put you on hold. “What for” I ask. You say, “I’m waiting for perfection”. Okay, I’ll see you next century.

These people have things being held up for the perfection they seek. They might not even know it when they see it.

Because they are holding on to perfection, perfection has a hold on them. Just like a bank being held up and eventually robbed, they might be robbing themselves out of opportunities by having perfection hold them up not only in the moment but also down the roadways of what otherwise might have been possible or could have been traversed if perfection was left by the wayside.

Also, there has always been a link between the search for perfection and procrastination. Because perfection seems to count for more even it is isn’t fully quantifiable, I am generally waiting for bigger numbers or something bigger and sometimes that wait tends to be longer.

The perfections wait might ironically work against finding perfection. I’m waiting on perfection in this situation, which will work against the letting go process, which is necessary or desirable in some situations as I can never be totally freed from chaos in the search. While I am patiently waiting on this situation for perfection, there might be another situation I am bypassing which is much closer to perfection and much easier to deal with right from the beginning or get go and the initial startup possibilities are real and could possibly be traversed in reality. At least I can get a start elsewhere, while perfection wouldn’t even give me a place at it’s starting line because it is so hard to get a toehold then.

You can only give what you can give. For example, my friend is a hairstylist. I want to give her business and I want to let her cut my hair once or twice a week. However, once I have my hair cut, it takes a month or so to grow back, so the best I can give her as a customer needing a haircut is a once a month visit to help her business out that way.

We might join ourselves into some creative process and look for perfection at the same time. First, I might want to increase the creative level. The first focus as far as our designs should be on the creative process rather than the perfection. The creative process is what I seek to march into and to navigate towards. If we have our designs on perfection while also looking for creativity, we might end up getting frustrated and wind up inhibiting the creative process. Here then I just frame for creativity since that is my goal.First and foremost I want the creative juices flwing and perfection would be just an add on to this, or a caught by suprise byproduct of this. Perfection if it comes might be later on or as byproduct of some previously unknown mix, not right off the bat into the process.

I should be able to bring a given style to a particular situation that may or may not be side by side with perfection. People may have different speaking styles, writing styles, acting styles, and painting styles, all which can relate to the creative process. The whole creative area lends itself to different styles. After all, if everybody is going to be perfect, where is there room for style? I could look for the perfect me. A key idea is where, how and when do I need to be roomier in processes I’m involving myself in or what ranges can I attempt to go forward into. People have given themselves very narrow bands to both operate in and excel in and the question to that can by, why? And also, low bar results are still results, I don’t have to jump over the canopy of the ages in everything I do and everywhere I go in order to find myself with some wanted results.